Meet Sarah Wilder
Your no-nonsense guide to feeling real.
You want to actually be in your body when someone touches you, in your heart when someone loves you, in your life when it's happening.
And you're tired of being told to "just relax" or "lean in" when nobody's shown you how to do that in a body that learned to leave a long time ago.
I know. I’ve been there.
My Story
I came to this work through my own relational pain.
For years, I was numb. I couldn't feel pleasure. I couldn't feel much of anything. During sex, during intimacy, sometimes during ordinary life — I would leave my body. Not dramatically. Quietly. I'd just… not be there.
After leaving a marriage of 16 years, I felt free for the first time. I could explore. I could live life on my terms. But what did that actually mean?
I adventured. I explored. I ran away. I was having a ton of fun — and I was avoiding everything underneath it.
That time was also deeply sexually liberating. I had my first real sexual awakening. And then I fell in love — unexpectedly, unplanned — and experienced the most profound relationship of my life. It was beautiful. It was also really painful.
Through breakups and reconnection, I was meeting parts of myself I didn't like.
I started exploring different therapies. I dove into attachment theory and began trying to untangle my disorganized attachment style. I was doing the work — but something still wasn't landing.
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When I enrolled in a program through Authentic Tantra, I stopped everything else and fully surrendered to this path — this gentle, compassionate, body-based way of healing that finally met me where I actually was.
Along the way, I started talking to friends about what I was learning — tantra, attachment, the intersection of the two — and helping them through their own stuff.
I hosted groups and workshops, and the work took on a life of its own through private coaching.
In 2023, I got certified in Attachment Coaching.
In 2025, I completed the Tantra program and became a board-certified sexologist and 5-Element Tibetan Tantra Practitioner — licensed to teach and practice everything I've spent years learning in my own body first.
Working with me includes a very unique blend of these modalities and everything I've gathered through years of self-study, lived experience, and showing up for my own healing over and over again.
I created this practice because I needed it to exist.
I needed a space where sexuality and spirituality weren't separate.
Where attachment wounds could be healed in the body, not just talked about. Where someone would meet me with compassion instead of a clipboard.
That's what I offer now. Every session, every workshop, every conversation is built on the foundation of my own healing and the deep training that followed it.